Olivia Ruth died last Monday, September 19th. She was four days old. The African Violets that were supposed to be favors at her Mommy's baby shower were instead decorations at their double funeral.
I made it up to Boston Tuesday night. Through serendipity (if there is any in a situation like this) I ended up staying in the same hotel as Kyle, and a few other friends. We stayed up until about 3:30 am, drinking a LOT, talking, laughing, crying, being together. Wednesday morning there was a Catholic mass. It was very much for Sharon's mom, and not at all about who Sharon was, or the relationship she had with God. At the "passing of the peace" I hugged a friend and whispered "This isn't her. This isn't what she'd want" and she agreed. After communion, the reverand took a solid gulp of the remaining sacramental wine and she leaned over and said "did the priest just chug the wine? Now THAT is what Sharon would have wanted."
The procession from the church to the cemetary was nearly two miles long. At the grave site, the funeral director passed around roses for family and close friends to put on the casket. When he handed the roses to Kyle, some of the baby's breath fell to the ground. The director apologized profusely, and Kyle said "it's okay, you should have seen the way she kept house." The mourners chuckled, I put my rose on her casket, and it suddenly was undeniable anymore.
After the reception, I was dropped off at the train station to head home. But I didn't go home. My benevolant benefactor lives not far from there, and if ever there was a time to spend some time hugging someone you don't get to see often enough, I thought this would be it. Sharon would have understood that. So I spent the night with a dear friend, thinking about another dear friend that I would never see again.
I hope they both know how very very much I love and cherish them.
I'm trying to recover from losing her. It's going to be a while.
Oh, and some last thoughts on how rotten radio is?
Friday morning, less than 16 hours after Sharon's death, her job opening was listed. It took them five days to put a tribute up on the website, which consisted of a photo, her life dates, and "please pray for Sharon and her family" and they took that down after 48 hours. But the search to replace her began before her body was cold.